- I figured since I missed yesterday’s Saturday Mornin’ Hustle post, I’d do the next best thing… our Sunday morning struggle! Are we the only family that has such a hard time getting up and making it to church on time and having a good Sunday? It’s a difficult task and it seems like Satan is really working double time on Sunday morning’s to make sure we’re all nerve-wrecked and bent out of shape at some point on Sunday.
Today has been a little different, though. My parents stopped through last night on their way to New Mexico and I’ve been up since 5:30. We had a great little afternoon yesterday after the parents got here about 3pm. They treated us to TCBY delicious frozen yogurt, then we went home and watched the boys splish and splash in their new kiddie pools. After the boys froze their cute little tooshies off, we went and had a really great meal at Steamboat Bill’s in Lake Charles and rode around the town looking and drove past daddy’s work. Migi and Pedaw unfortunately had to get on the road first thing this morning to make their fifteen hour trip West and I decided to stay up and get some “work” done.
One thing I’m kind of glad about is a new Facebook page I created. I was getting ready yesterday morning when a lightbulb went off! I have traveled with Albert to almost all these different places he’s worked in the last four years [Kemper, MS, Donaldsonville and Baton Rouge, LA, Baytown, TX, Sioux City, Iowa, and now Lake Charles, LA] and I realized at the baseball park Thursday & Friday nights [after only one other mama spoke to me, usually it’s no other mama’s unless I force a teensy convo] that it is dang hard to make friends in new places! My little thought stemmed into a gazillion branches and I decided to start a group on the facepage that women in the Lake Charles area could get together if their husbands or significant others worked at the plants. We all can relate with the “plant life” as my friend described it, so this is the perfect opportunity to gather women to make new friendships with this “Mega Project” that is up and coming. Supposedly, there are thousands of people coming in to work, meaning there will potentially be thousands of women and ladies who have nobody! Let me just tell you, having nobody is a really crappy feeling.
I also know the amazing feeling of making new friends and being able to follow them around on Facebook through their journeys! It’s kind of like a secret sisterhood that we’ve formed. The crazy thing though is that I “know” lots of women through other women I’ve met but have only met half of them in real life! This lifestyle is a struggle. We go months sometimes not knowing if the job is going to end that week or in a few more months or in years. We move to a brand new town and have to unpack all our belongings and hope that we don’t have to get up and move before we get settled in. Our children also have to bear this struggle as they say goodbye and hello to new friends more often than we’d like to admit. Thankfully children are resilient and play it out enough to let us believe they understand that we have to go for daddy’s work so we’ll have food to eat and a house to sleep in. This is not a path most can handle, that’s why it is very important to keep a good circle of friends and know that we’re not alone in this!
One really frustrating thing I’ve had to endure from the start-up of the group is that some locals have experssed their thoughts through the local community pages I posted on about me opening this “only for out of town ladies.” I know that this blog may not make it very far as far as this FB group goes, but I want to put this in writing. The page I created is not for just out of town ladies! It is for ANY woman who is dealing with this lifestyle and needs a friend. Local or not, everybody needs at least one friend! But, locals usually already have their tribe that they can lean on, newbies in the area do not. We have to work hard at making new friends on our own. Right now, I know several ladies in this area which is so nice, but I only know them because I went to church growing up with one, went to church as an adult with another, met two through my husband introducing me to his coworkers wives, one through a little laundromat in a tiny town in Iowa (yes, my friend in Louisiana was placed at the tiny campground laundromat in Sloan, Iowa over six months ago because God knew we would end up in Louisiana at the same time!) and the others we’ve known as family friends for the past twenty something years! Lake Charles has been a melting pot of friendships for me!
My point is, it is very important to have people you can lean on that are in similar situations. Several times in the past few years, I did not think I was going to survive being a wife to my husband who traveled
and left usall the time. Albert, me and our boys were suffering being hours apart, yet our family was growing. We decided to move our family around for better or worse and I’m so glad that we’ve been given the opportunities we have been given! This road is a bumpy one and it can be very hectic at times, but I wouldn’t trade it in the world! I’ve grown as a wife and a mother and even though I feel like I’m losing my mind most days of the week and still want to run away as much as I don’t want to run away, this is our life and I love it! Plant life is doable and it’s totally worth it on the good days!
Y’all have a great Sunday, it’s time to get up and head on out to church in an hour! Xo.